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Saturday, January 10, 2015

Getting Them Together

How strong will our churches be in fifteen, twenty, thirty years from now?  About as strong as the Christian families formed by the marriages of today . . .

How many young Christian couples do you know today that are likely leaders for the church of tomorrow?  How many will even be members of the next generation of the church?

In my experience, there are far too few individuals who marry their spiritual match.  More times than I would care to count, I have seen strong young men with solid convictions and a heart for God yoke themselves to young women concerned only with how they look to the nearly man.  I have seen good women concerned with serving God purposefully in their lives with young men who would put the cross to shame.

Here is how the scenario generally works out:
Good boy has been taught to respect girls; good girl has been taught not to be forward.  Good boy takes this injunction very seriously and respects girls so much that he hardly dares speak to them.  Good girl, in her attempt to avoid being forward, refrains from speaking to guys much at all.  As a result, good girl and good boy might live next door and never even improve upon their acquaintance despite their mutual respect.

Bad boy comes along and charms good girl by acting like the good boy or as if she has turned him into a good boy.  Bad boy and good girl eventually marry.  Good boy then despairs of there being any good girls who will really like him because the one good girl he knew just married a bad boy.  Bad girl comes along and flirts with good boy, flattering him and appearing to improve ever so slightly under his continued influence.  Good boy eventually marries bad girl.

The trend of mismatches in my social circles has become one of my greatest concerns.  How do we remedy this situation?  How do we get the good ones together?

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